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After a few seminars, the Psychology Club started to prepare for the real work after a professor gave a class to guide the members.

Counseling students.

It was mainly the sophomores and older siblings, and the freshmen were in charge of listening, watching, learning, and helping out. Qiao Lan could have shrugged off the previous meetings and dinners, but this time he had to follow along no matter what, and this kind of activity was not something that Tan Mo could come back to participate in.

Tan Mo wasn't too happy about it.

Qiao Lan easily spotted Tan Mo's unhappiness.

Ever since she had forbidden Tan Mo to lie to her anymore, Tan Mo would usually put on his face whatever he was feeling, and he wouldn't hide anything from her.

Qiao Lan is also in a bit of a bind.

She remembered that she had originally enrolled in the club because it would help her learn her field of study, and it had proven to be helpful, as the professor had even given them a lecture two days ago.

But if you think about the reason for studying psychology in the first place, it's clear that there's only one, and that's Tan Mo.

So, whether it's applying for psychology or joining this club, it's all for Tan Mo, and now that Tan Mo is unhappy with the club, Qiao Lan doesn't even have to think about it to make a choice between the club and Tan Mo.

If Tan Mo doesn't like it, it's not impossible to give up.

But lately ...... Maybe it's still not quite right, the club is quite busy lately, it's hard to leave like that all of a sudden.

Looking at Tan Mo who became silent because she was busy, Qiao Lan touched Tan Mo's earlobe and said, "I'll go to the president of the club to quit the club after I'm done with my work, and after I quit the club, I'll be with you every day."

Tan Mo's eyes lit up, "Really?"

"Of course it's true, when have I ever lied to you," Qiao Lan smiled, "I'll go first."

Tan Mo couldn't resist kissing her, "Then I'll pick you up tonight."

Qiao Lan smiled and waved her hand.

When we got to the club, we saw Luo Man running around after Ji Su again, and when she came in, she said hello and followed Ji Su again.

People were quite interested at first as if they were watching the show, but this has been chasing it for almost two months, so it's become a strange thing to see.

When all the people have arrived, we will start the assignment of today's tasks, or the senior sister will lead the younger siblings, the senior sister will naturally call them when they are ready, Qiao Lan did not go over to join in the fun until Ji Su called out to her.

Qiao Lan looked up and froze, Ji Su was calm, "Today you follow me and Pei Beijia."

"Oh, good," Qiao Lan glanced at her older sister, who was standing next to Ji Su and smiling at her, and returned her smile.

Because of Tan Mo, she was indeed "suspicious" of Ji Su, but these days' had indeed been a rotation where they, the freshmen, were in contact with each of the older siblings, and today it had happened to be Ji Su and already, not to mention the other sibling.

After packing up his things and waiting for Ji Su to finish organizing his work, he followed Ji Su and Pei Beijia out the door.

Qiao Lan followed Pei Beijia, listening to Ji Su and Pei Beijia, talking about quite professional things, Qiao Lan listened quite carefully, and when we arrived at the place, Pei Beijia looked at his cell phone and said that he had something to do, and left first, before Qiao Lan could react, he left in a hurry.

Qiao Lan frowned and said nothing after all, sitting down in another chair next to the table and glancing at the clock.

Nineteen seventeen.

Ji Su flipped through the roster in her hand and asked her as if casually, "Why, is it urgent."

"No," Qiao Lan put away her cell phone, "Senior, when will the students coming for counseling arrive."

"The appointment is at seven-thirty, ten minutes to go."

Qiao Lan nodded and said nothing more, only unconsciously scooting her chair slightly further away again.

The pen in Ji Su's hand lurched, his fingertips tapping on the paper twice, and he raised his head to look at Qiao Lan and suddenly said, "I don't know if it's just me, but I feel like you're rejecting me a bit."

Hmm?

Qiao Lan really didn't expect Ji Su to be so sharp-eyed, not to mention that he would ask so directly.

After a moment of surprise, Qiao Lan smiled slightly, "I'm not rejecting you, after all, we don't have much communication", Qiao Lan said with a normal expression.

"So it looks like I was wrong about my feelings?"

"That's not true", Qiao Lan shook her head, "It's probably because I deliberately stay away from any member of the opposite sex."

Ji Su nodded with interest, "Your boyfriend doesn't like it?"

"... There are reasons for that", Qiao Lan said, "but I think since I have a boyfriend, it's the right thing to do as a significant other to stay away from other people of the opposite sex."

You're only in love, and you're already calling each other by your other half? Ji Su was a bit unhappy, but he was still smiling, but he continued to discuss the issue with Qiao Lan.

"It could be that we have a slightly different point of view, I don't think you have to completely eschew friends of the opposite sex even if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, and even the other half doesn't have the right to not allow the person you like to have friends of their own."

"There is no conflict between having friends of the opposite sex and staying away from friends of the opposite sex", Qiao Lan said, "I think a person can't stay away from his friends no matter when he is, friends are an indispensable part of the road of life, but I think that after having a boyfriend, it is also necessary to keep a certain distance from friends of the opposite sex, what does the senior think? distance is also necessary, what do seniors think."

Ji Su looked at the girl in front of her.

Pretty, smart, generous, direct, whatever it was, he found it extraordinarily satisfying.

"You make a good point, then I have another question for you, if you had to choose between your significant other and a very important friend someday, what would you do."

"The rational thing to do, that would naturally be to do the right thing."

"Are you rational."

"I'm not," Qiao Lan shook her head decisively, "I'm protective and biased towards people."

"Eccentric boyfriend?"

"Sure."

"Even if this incident was indeed your boyfriend's fault?"

"Yes."

Even if that might not really be right, even if people would say she was mesmerized by her feelings, even if there was something unnatural about such a relationship in the eyes of others, her choice would never change.

There is only one right answer to any question for her, and that is Tan Mo.

Ji Su suddenly didn't want to talk, Qiao Lan was still the same Qiao Lan, the Qiao Lan that he couldn't do anything about.

Before there is no way to get close, it is not easy to get close, but what to say is useless, quite a lot of also only not much to make him in a bad mood.

Well, the first student to come in for counseling arrived, and the conversation between Ji Su and Qiao Lan was over.

Qiao Lan followed for a few days, to the students all kinds of hidden secrets in the bottom of the heart really marveled, exclaimed that the original world too much thinking, overly paranoid people turned out to be so many, we do psychological counseling while organizing the case, and then after a few days a break to sit down and analyze all the cases together.

In order to protect the privacy of the students, the cases are not signed, Ji Su and other seniors and siblings pick out the most representative and probably the most radical cases to discuss together.

There's a case just like that today.

I don't know which elder sister dealt with, anyway Qiao Lan followed a few days did not meet, the case protagonist see event analysis should be a girl, a word of explanation is that the girl feels that her boyfriend is too radical so put forward the breakup, the boyfriend firmly disagreed and made a series of radical behavior to prevent her breakup.

What makes the girl finally relent is when her boyfriend comes and cautions her that he will kill himself if she ever mentions anything about breaking up again.

"He will always scold me all the time fierce me, scolded crying I will say he is wrong, but he will still always scold me fierce me, I can not talk to other than him still and people, including female classmates, in the □□□ a minute do not reply, will be angry, text messages a minute not back he will keep sending until I return until I can not every time in time to see it, really going crazy ..... Every time my friend is not happy I comfort, he will say, other people's business do not care, but is my very good friends, he will say let them go to hell, I really was driven crazy, just want to break up to seek relief, but he threatened me with suicide ......"

Recently, the school just had a suicide, the girl was really scared by the boyfriend's threat, for the time being, dare not not mention the breakup again, but because of the boyfriend's behavior to him more anxious fear.

Ji Su asked the community members to hand out the information to everyone and have them read it carefully first.

For this kind of question, just like a few girls who just made a statement as soon as they heard it, they felt that they had to split, right away.

A grumpy girl just didn't hold back and said directly, "Split, split right away, I just don't believe he'll really kill himself, this kind of selfish person can't afford to kill himself at all."

When the information was all sent out, it was a realization that it wasn't that simple.

Because from this girl's account, the boyfriend's claim of suicide was not an intentional threat, and he really might commit suicide.

The girl lists a series of her boyfriend's deviant behaviors that a normal person would never do, but he does one after another.

After everyone had read the information and been silent for a while, a boy spoke up in the silence, "This boy, he's sick."

After saying that, he hastened to say, "I'm not scolding him, I'm just stating the facts, saying that he's sick, meaning he's mentally ill, I guess."

This conclusion was unanimously accepted, as no normal person could do such a thing.

Qiao Lan looked at the manuscript in her hands and listened to the chattering discussion around her without speaking.

Ji Su had been patiently listening to the discussion for a while before he began to say.

"Accurately speaking, too much possessiveness too paranoid is not a mental illness, but it also depends on how strong the possessiveness is, whether there is excessive suspicion or similar spying on the other party such as a relatively inappropriate behavior, as well as whether your possessiveness has seriously affected your state and so on. Of course, whether it's a mental illness or not being too possessive is not good in itself."

"Generally possessive people tend to have low self-esteem, feel that they are not good enough for fear of being abandoned by the other party so extra want to control and possess the other party, these problems, the general situation of good communication, with the right way to guide or can be solved normally, we are discussing today's topic is not this one, but another, not for possessive this kind of behavior, but for the people who really have mental illness."

"Here I pose the question, do people with mental illness, do you think they can have normal love like normal people."